What is an effective aspect of an "I" message?

An "I" message is a communication strategy designed to express personal feelings and perceptions without blaming or criticizing others. Taking ownership for the feeling is a key aspect of an effective "I" message. By focusing on one's own experiences and emotions rather than attributing intent or fault to the other person, this approach promotes understanding and reduces defensiveness.

When one says, "I feel upset when you..." instead of "You make me upset," it emphasizes how the speaker's feelings are a response to a situation rather than an accusation against another person. This method encourages constructive dialogue and promotes the potential for resolution and empathy, fostering a positive interaction rather than escalating conflict.